On request of Mushtaq Mehmood I have choosen this topic. I believe if we can understand & develop leadership qualities within ourselves this would entail a happier & productive life. Based on the significance of the topic I have decided to do a three part series. I’ll try to make the process and the acquisition of these skill as easy as it could be… so that everyone could follow through …  and acquire these skills for a better future …   

Part # 1- Leadership – Understanding the Basics. 

Part # 2 – How to become a leader. (Activities / Games / Habits)  

So without wasting time lets dive into learning what actually is leadership:  as per text book definition its ;

 ” A process that influences other people to achieve an objective and guides the company in a way to make it more coherent and cohesive is called leadership. “

or

 “process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task.”

Now those definitions are pretty much correct. But for me .. leadership means one thing “Inspiring others”  and like most of the skills this needs constant practice, refining & tweaking.

 Now if a leader has to force you to do something then he definatly lacks leadership skill.

The question might arise why do we need to learn about leadership. Well in todays world, we have many followers but not that many leaders … Now this is an oppertunity. Yes we have a unlimited supply of Team leaders, Group Leaders etc etc .. but truely ask yourself if you were part of any such team, did they inspire you … 90 % of the time the answer would be “NO” you had to follow them because of the position they were put in and vice versa ….

Having this quality can differntiate you from the rest of the group !!! I very good quote needs to be mentioned here :

 Only one man in a thousand is a leader of men — the other 999 follow women.  – Groucho Marx

  

 Reason I mentioned this because its actually true , that one person who posses leadership quality is one amongst not 999 , its 999999 (population have increase I guess since that quote was said )  and this quality shows , radiates from your every word , from your every gesture , from your actions and speech, goals, vision.  If you have it … then that is all you need to get to the top.

I can’t emphisis more on the need to develop this skill … and know this , its very much acquireable .. many says that leaders are born , well I won’t agree here … for me I am more of a believer that ” LEADERS ARE MADE ” and if you have the will then you can be a leaders too …

Let me end this article with this quote :

‎”Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  

 So what you’ve done in your life before this moment , you can’t change that … but what you do now onwardsd will change & shape your life to come … so take action ….

 If you have any topic on which you want me to write about (has to be personal development / self improvement or related) do let me know I have the time & will to share my thoughts and research to make it more informative.

To your success ….

- Tirmizi

” WE WILL NOT PAY THE BILL OF NOVEMBER ”

Its not a habit that i’d like to prmote , but this is one way that everybody can participate in & this has the potential to create some pressure on the govt.

However , I am always open to suggestions and always am in search for better solutions .. so this is not the end infact its the begining … lets discussion / brainstorm better solutions …

Cheers ,

- Tirmizi
http://www.tirmizivlog.com/

I always share my personal experience , my journey cause its basically journey of an average or below average skilled and education wise individual towards a better position .. so most could relate to it and see that whatever I’ve discuss is very much possible , as I have done it so I believe anybody else can too ..  

 Now if I have to choose top skills that has helped in changing my life my thinking then , the most important has been ” Reading & Researching “

 I was like most of the Pakistani people who hate to read , I never read even the novels or “umru aiyaar ke kahaniyaan as a kid” you can say without reading you are kinda LOST .. or its like your own brain you are using .. but with reading you are basically borrowing brains of all the folks around you on the given subject, benefit from their earlier work …

 So this quick note is to let you know if you develop the habit of reading , seems really difficult or weired or kids stuff … but if you do it .. research things .. you’ll see there has been so much work already done on almost every subject , and things have been made so simple , but we just don’t know them .. and you could be doing things alot better if you knew those traits …. those rare secrets that the PLAYERS / GURUS are using ..

 so if you’ve got any problem then easier is just go to google , and research the answer , most often then not you’ll find the answer , tips etc …

 Now once you’ve that habit developed , you’ll be paying more attention to my notes too .. just kidding … just want you guys to go out and find the answers and not just remain confused or doing things the old school way … take benefit from other’s work .. they have done the hard work all you need to do is replicate , no need to reinvent the wheel ..

THE BOTTOM LINE IS SUCESSS IS NOT SOME COLLECTION OF SUPER POWERS , ITS THE COMBINATION OF THESE SMALL HABITS …. SO I HOPE YOU’D REALISE THE SIGNIFICANCE OF THESE AND TRY TO DEVELOP THESE MORE … OR PAY MORE ATTENTION ON THESE SKILLS …..

To your success …

- Tirmizi   |    First Pakistani blogger with a Pakistani Vlog

Initially when I started writing on this topic of motivation, it was not intended to be a two part thing , but motivation is something that we get and lose pretty easily. So it was imperitive to understand what are the factors which result in demotivation… 

Now lets talk about the system of staying motivated, this is not any hard and fast rule but something that I have tried and tested and worked so I am sharing so perhaps someone out there could also benefit.

Step # 1  Define your dream / want / goal :

Now at times we just spend life without clearly knowing what we really want. Yes momentarily things come up like jobs, cars , gadgets etc , but those are the things they just come and go or something new comes up .. so there is nothing static in your mind to fight for or aim for on day to day basis .. so think about this , it could be any materialistic thing , any position etc, but that has to mean the most for you …

Step # 2 Reverse Engineer :

This is most important to simplify or creating a road map for you so you’ll know exactly what steps are needed. Remember when we were kids , there were those puzzles where you’ve to take the object to its destination, so the cheat or easiest way was to start from the end point and move back towards the starting , so this works the same way .. know what you want ultimatly and then start thinking , what you might need to get their … Now this could be a J-O-B , any object anything ….. let me give you my real life example ..

While I was working in a newspaper was tired of that job and since then I wanted to do JOB in Mobilink. So that was an ultimate goal for me … so then I did this reverse engineering thingi …

Goal Mobilink

I needed ;

1. Good Communication Skills.
2. Strong Personality.
3. Good on paper / CV.
4. Networking (though that was not on agenda at that time but now the way things are I would suggest you guys to do that too as its fairly easy via the new virtual world of social networking sites.

Now me having a very ordinary educational background , and insufficient experience , I knew those are the areas I can’t change , but I have to overcome them by other things that I can change .. so above become my list … cause I knew in my heart that If I have those things then I’ll have that JOB in Mobilink. 

What this excercise does is it breaks down the bigger objective into smaller sub objectives , which are inline with the bigger one …

Step # 3 : Breaking down the sub task to daily activities level:

Now in order to achieve those sub task , start thinking about what small activities you need to perform in order to achieve that skill / goal … 

Like for communication skills : (and let me assure you my english langugage was very misrable in those days )

So I though this is what I’ll do …

1- Read 1 page of english newspaper each day.

2- Speak english with some friend (now this is you have to find some like minded person who might be interested in this too otherwise rest will just make fun of you) or family if this could happen.

3- Watch an english movie (this was easy)

anwyays you ge the idea, so I did these things and other relevant things .. Now doing these fully or even partially gave me full satisfaction that I am working towards my bigger objective.

Right Mindset :

Stay positive and know it in your heart that you will be able to achieve the target , remind that yourself, write down your target and put that on the wall or in your room somewhere , where you’ll be reminded of your target all the time ….

Now this is important , don’t be too hard on yourself , to plan every min , cause its life , you’ll get all kind of surprises daily , things that you didn’t forsee , which might consume your time … so plan your time accordingly , keep some time for unplanned activities. And many a time you won’t be able to work on your tasks , anticipate that this might happen and its ok , so you won’t be demotivated that you’ve stopped working etc .. cause if you knew their would be days like this , then this won’t break the habit.

In the end make sure you are having fun !!! cause without having fun , it would just turn into work or some kinda burdon .. so enjoy what you are doing , that will make the pace of progress alot faster ….

I hope these tips or steps would help you , I tried to make the whole process as simple so that anybody could replicate and take benefit from this …

In the end , be vocal , share your feedback as comments , cause collectively we can refine these things and eventually help many.

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EDITED: IMPORTANT ADDITION BY KAMRAN SULTAN SAHAB … PLEASE READ THIS IT WOULD REALLY HELP YOU TAKE MY WORD FOR IT ..

For those who are using this, I am just adding a bit of NLP to Syed Tirmizi’s words. I hope this helps some readers.

There are certain conditions for making your goals happen. 

1. Be SPECIFIC and think of what you do you want. …Many people think of what they do not want e.g. I do not want financial troubles. The problems is the word NOT is not processed in the unconscious and when people think of what they do not want they program their brains to focus on what they do not want (e.g. financial problems). And remember what you focus on you will experience. 

2. Make sure you OWN it. In other words a goal is something that YOU WANT instead of what someone else suggested you should want. 

3. It is ACHIEVABLE now. You know what no matter how positive I may think, at my present age I just can not fight a heavy weight boxer. So how can you say it is achievable, if there are people like you, your age, your education etc are doing it YOU CAN DO IT too. 

4. Consider the EFFECTS in your life and life of those around you. No matter what changes you make there will be some effects, are they acceptable to you? Will everyone involved benefit in some way? How will this goal impact the world at large? 

5. Have a dead line for achievement. A goal must have a certain dead line, or its only a wish. This is also important because the goal may not be worth the effort in some situations. 

6. What can go wrong and what will you do if it goes wrong?Things won’t be smooth just because you have set a goal. There will be challenges. Plan ahead, what if something goes wrong. How will you handle it. What if your PLAN A does not work, what will be your PLAN B and PLAN C. 

Most people quit when they face challenges, but when you have planned for it you will be ready to move on and on. 

Now when you have made it, Here is how you can install your goal in your unconscious mind so that you keep working towards it with least effort. 

When you have finished WRITING your goal. 

1. Imagine what it will be like to have it achieved. Imagine AS IF you already have it. Make a BIG bright colorful image in your mind. See it as a movie of your successful achievement. Add Sounds you expect to be hearing, (Pretend if you must) and Feel the feelings you will be feeling when you will have it. 

2. Step out of the image and place it in your future right on the date when you want it to happen. 

3. From then on every time you think of your goal, think of it AS IF its already done. 

I hope this helps…See More 

To your success ….

- Tirmizi

Life is full of distractions .. These distractions at times take us away from what we actually want or our dreams. Now dreams too the word (in a country like Pakistan where seemingly people feel that there aren’t that many oppertunities) sometimes seem unreal. But believe me they can come true provided you back up your dreams with a plan. Without that systematic plan of action those dream will remain dreams unless Allah has a miracle plan to reward you  ….. However, the general rule of thumb is Allah helps those who helps themselves …

Now when I was talking about systematic plan , that can help you achieve your dreams … and keep you motivated.

Before we go into the details of how to motivate yourself, this would rather become a long write-up ,  in this part 1 lets discuss what are the things that basically demotivates us ..

1-  Unreal Wants / Dreams.

2-  Present resources.

3-  No results.

4-  Peer pressure.

5-  Habit of giving up ….

Now without spending too much time on explaining them … let me quickly go through those so you can get an idea .. unreal wants (well to be honest if you ask me there is nothing that could be unreal provided you are committed and dedicated proportionally to make that dream / want to come into reality) are stuff that you might think is not possible and eventually you never persue that specific dream.

Sometimes the current resources prove a big barrier for you to start your journey towards your dreams / wants. but I’ll discuss in more details that what you have is sufficient.

Then even if you start your journey but after sometimes you don’t see things happening you tend to stop or get demotivated … then you have friends & family who at times are not supportive of your ideas or dreams and they try to force the so called reality to your face … so that again is one factor that stops you from persuing your dreams ..

And in the end this is a very normal factor that stops us from making our dreams come true … that is our habit of leaving things or stopping at things … Now its this habit that can sky rocket your chances of achieving your goals / dreams , now decide whenever you want to do anything be it big or small .. make a commitment to yourself that I will do it … and once you do it successfully , then you’ll get the additional motivation that what you plan to do you have the power to make that happen … So once you start achieving a few tasks , then you’ll realize the power and hidden potential that you had ….

In the next part of this motivation system , i’ll discus what is the system that you should pick up .. and how that could help in bringing your dreams into reality …

Do share your thoughts , be voacal , caues that is the first thing I did when I started my journey … and I still follow that ….. discuss stuff , ask questions … don’t just leave things or question marks in your heart ..

To your success …

- Tirmizi

 If you are like me , you have got your head stucked into too many things , or even if you don’t have that many things in your mind …

YOU CAN STILL BE FAR MORE PRODUCTIVE THEN WHAT YOU ALREADY ARE

  Now everyday one can wake up thinking , Ahhh shit , today I have to go through the same old shit again .. or you can plan the day before and know exactly what to expect the next morning , so you can save yourself from that ugly surprise (which actually is not a surprise) but many of the working class they sleep @ night thinking that the rest won’t end ever .. and when they wake up the next day .. its an ugly recurrance ..

Anyways … my point is that a day specially in winter season is already very small … and with those few hours … we need to make most of it …  This also holds more significance if you are like 95 % of educated class who are doing some kinda J-O-B …  cause after work one feels very tired and assumes that he’s productive hours are over and the reamaining time he / she would rest …

But the real question to ask yourself … is

THE TIME YOU SPENT IN OFFICE WAS THAT PRODUCTIVE FOR YOU OR FOR THE EMPLOYER !!!

This used to be my motivation when I was working … coming back from a hard day , and then starting over with my own personal productive time ….

Now how to go about making your day and tomorrow more productive … well this might sound bit text book type .. but if you follow this , you’ll see how productive your day could be and how unplanned your life has been earlier ….

well all you need to do is write on a peice of paper ..

Today

Task # 1  (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 2  (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 3 (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 4 (important ) (not urgent)

Tomorrow

Task # 1  (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 2  (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 3 (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 4 (important ) (not urgent)

Now keep this peice of paper at a place where you could be watching it , or where it woudl stay in front of you …….. Keep track of your tasks .. which are done and which are not .. if you follow this tip for a few days , infact for just one day , you’ll realise that how much productive day you just had …

To your success …

- Tirmizi

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I remember a couple of years ago after college when I started with my first job … things seemed really great , and I always had the habit of looking at the bigger picture , like my first job was of Rs. 2,500 and for me it was a big deal , though the employer that I used to work for used to take work like crazy and eventually I used to end up paying Rs. 3,000 just in petrol etc .. but I was always calculating like , if I am earning Rs. 2,500 a month that means I am earning 30 K a year … hmmm ! thats nice ..

BUT VERY SOON REALITY BITES HARD … AND YOUR DREAM WORLD COMES CRASHING DOWN …

you are in the market and you see and meet other people who are earning alot more then what you are earning in a year etc .. who have much better facilities etc etc … 

Now … at this point you’ve got two options …

1- To stay in your current situation and curse the world and Lord for his injustice …

2- To take up the challange and change your situation.

So the reason of me writing this note was basically as I was writing today’s plan , so I though to share with you guys, that with little planning , just sitting down thinking , prioritizing , orginizing you can change your life …

I made my journey from Rs. 2,500 to (well I don’t want to brag, but its purely unlimited plus I get to do whatever I want to do …) just because I choose to take up the challange and change my situation …

So plan your life so that you’d be spending it on your own terms and not the other way around. I wish and hope that you guys have a prospereous life ahead …

I get so much inspiration and motivation from the real life positive stories of individuals , similar quotes , sayings …. so do share positive stuff, stories , quotes  all around .. you might never know , when and where you might be changing somebody’s LIFE …

And to do me a favor , if you have any positive story to share or quote etc , do share it here or keep sharing it with me … cause I am always interested …

Tirmizi 

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