On request of Mushtaq Mehmood I have choosen this topic. I believe if we can understand & develop leadership qualities within ourselves this would entail a happier & productive life. Based on the significance of the topic I have decided to do a three part series. I’ll try to make the process and the acquisition of these skill as easy as it could be… so that everyone could follow through …  and acquire these skills for a better future …   

Part # 1- Leadership – Understanding the Basics. 

Part # 2 – How to become a leader. (Activities / Games / Habits)  

So without wasting time lets dive into learning what actually is leadership:  as per text book definition its ;

 ” A process that influences other people to achieve an objective and guides the company in a way to make it more coherent and cohesive is called leadership. “

or

 “process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task.”

Now those definitions are pretty much correct. But for me .. leadership means one thing “Inspiring others”  and like most of the skills this needs constant practice, refining & tweaking.

 Now if a leader has to force you to do something then he definatly lacks leadership skill.

The question might arise why do we need to learn about leadership. Well in todays world, we have many followers but not that many leaders … Now this is an oppertunity. Yes we have a unlimited supply of Team leaders, Group Leaders etc etc .. but truely ask yourself if you were part of any such team, did they inspire you … 90 % of the time the answer would be “NO” you had to follow them because of the position they were put in and vice versa ….

Having this quality can differntiate you from the rest of the group !!! I very good quote needs to be mentioned here :

 Only one man in a thousand is a leader of men — the other 999 follow women.  – Groucho Marx

  

 Reason I mentioned this because its actually true , that one person who posses leadership quality is one amongst not 999 , its 999999 (population have increase I guess since that quote was said )  and this quality shows , radiates from your every word , from your every gesture , from your actions and speech, goals, vision.  If you have it … then that is all you need to get to the top.

I can’t emphisis more on the need to develop this skill … and know this , its very much acquireable .. many says that leaders are born , well I won’t agree here … for me I am more of a believer that ” LEADERS ARE MADE ” and if you have the will then you can be a leaders too …

Let me end this article with this quote :

‎”Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  

 So what you’ve done in your life before this moment , you can’t change that … but what you do now onwardsd will change & shape your life to come … so take action ….

 If you have any topic on which you want me to write about (has to be personal development / self improvement or related) do let me know I have the time & will to share my thoughts and research to make it more informative.

To your success ….

- Tirmizi

I always share my personal experience , my journey cause its basically journey of an average or below average skilled and education wise individual towards a better position .. so most could relate to it and see that whatever I’ve discuss is very much possible , as I have done it so I believe anybody else can too ..  

 Now if I have to choose top skills that has helped in changing my life my thinking then , the most important has been ” Reading & Researching “

 I was like most of the Pakistani people who hate to read , I never read even the novels or “umru aiyaar ke kahaniyaan as a kid” you can say without reading you are kinda LOST .. or its like your own brain you are using .. but with reading you are basically borrowing brains of all the folks around you on the given subject, benefit from their earlier work …

 So this quick note is to let you know if you develop the habit of reading , seems really difficult or weired or kids stuff … but if you do it .. research things .. you’ll see there has been so much work already done on almost every subject , and things have been made so simple , but we just don’t know them .. and you could be doing things alot better if you knew those traits …. those rare secrets that the PLAYERS / GURUS are using ..

 so if you’ve got any problem then easier is just go to google , and research the answer , most often then not you’ll find the answer , tips etc …

 Now once you’ve that habit developed , you’ll be paying more attention to my notes too .. just kidding … just want you guys to go out and find the answers and not just remain confused or doing things the old school way … take benefit from other’s work .. they have done the hard work all you need to do is replicate , no need to reinvent the wheel ..

THE BOTTOM LINE IS SUCESSS IS NOT SOME COLLECTION OF SUPER POWERS , ITS THE COMBINATION OF THESE SMALL HABITS …. SO I HOPE YOU’D REALISE THE SIGNIFICANCE OF THESE AND TRY TO DEVELOP THESE MORE … OR PAY MORE ATTENTION ON THESE SKILLS …..

To your success …

- Tirmizi   |    First Pakistani blogger with a Pakistani Vlog

Life is full of distractions .. These distractions at times take us away from what we actually want or our dreams. Now dreams too the word (in a country like Pakistan where seemingly people feel that there aren’t that many oppertunities) sometimes seem unreal. But believe me they can come true provided you back up your dreams with a plan. Without that systematic plan of action those dream will remain dreams unless Allah has a miracle plan to reward you  ….. However, the general rule of thumb is Allah helps those who helps themselves …

Now when I was talking about systematic plan , that can help you achieve your dreams … and keep you motivated.

Before we go into the details of how to motivate yourself, this would rather become a long write-up ,  in this part 1 lets discuss what are the things that basically demotivates us ..

1-  Unreal Wants / Dreams.

2-  Present resources.

3-  No results.

4-  Peer pressure.

5-  Habit of giving up ….

Now without spending too much time on explaining them … let me quickly go through those so you can get an idea .. unreal wants (well to be honest if you ask me there is nothing that could be unreal provided you are committed and dedicated proportionally to make that dream / want to come into reality) are stuff that you might think is not possible and eventually you never persue that specific dream.

Sometimes the current resources prove a big barrier for you to start your journey towards your dreams / wants. but I’ll discuss in more details that what you have is sufficient.

Then even if you start your journey but after sometimes you don’t see things happening you tend to stop or get demotivated … then you have friends & family who at times are not supportive of your ideas or dreams and they try to force the so called reality to your face … so that again is one factor that stops you from persuing your dreams ..

And in the end this is a very normal factor that stops us from making our dreams come true … that is our habit of leaving things or stopping at things … Now its this habit that can sky rocket your chances of achieving your goals / dreams , now decide whenever you want to do anything be it big or small .. make a commitment to yourself that I will do it … and once you do it successfully , then you’ll get the additional motivation that what you plan to do you have the power to make that happen … So once you start achieving a few tasks , then you’ll realize the power and hidden potential that you had ….

In the next part of this motivation system , i’ll discus what is the system that you should pick up .. and how that could help in bringing your dreams into reality …

Do share your thoughts , be voacal , caues that is the first thing I did when I started my journey … and I still follow that ….. discuss stuff , ask questions … don’t just leave things or question marks in your heart ..

To your success …

- Tirmizi

 If you are like me , you have got your head stucked into too many things , or even if you don’t have that many things in your mind …

YOU CAN STILL BE FAR MORE PRODUCTIVE THEN WHAT YOU ALREADY ARE

  Now everyday one can wake up thinking , Ahhh shit , today I have to go through the same old shit again .. or you can plan the day before and know exactly what to expect the next morning , so you can save yourself from that ugly surprise (which actually is not a surprise) but many of the working class they sleep @ night thinking that the rest won’t end ever .. and when they wake up the next day .. its an ugly recurrance ..

Anyways … my point is that a day specially in winter season is already very small … and with those few hours … we need to make most of it …  This also holds more significance if you are like 95 % of educated class who are doing some kinda J-O-B …  cause after work one feels very tired and assumes that he’s productive hours are over and the reamaining time he / she would rest …

But the real question to ask yourself … is

THE TIME YOU SPENT IN OFFICE WAS THAT PRODUCTIVE FOR YOU OR FOR THE EMPLOYER !!!

This used to be my motivation when I was working … coming back from a hard day , and then starting over with my own personal productive time ….

Now how to go about making your day and tomorrow more productive … well this might sound bit text book type .. but if you follow this , you’ll see how productive your day could be and how unplanned your life has been earlier ….

well all you need to do is write on a peice of paper ..

Today

Task # 1  (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 2  (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 3 (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 4 (important ) (not urgent)

Tomorrow

Task # 1  (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 2  (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 3 (important ) (not urgent)

Task # 4 (important ) (not urgent)

Now keep this peice of paper at a place where you could be watching it , or where it woudl stay in front of you …….. Keep track of your tasks .. which are done and which are not .. if you follow this tip for a few days , infact for just one day , you’ll realise that how much productive day you just had …

To your success …

- Tirmizi

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