Winners or Losers !!!! Now you have a choice

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Winners or Losers !!!! Now you have a choice

In life there are two basic parameters … Good or bad , black or white , two sides to every story etc etc .. and then we have two types of people generally based on the outcome of their goals , winner & losers … I know nobody wants to be labelled a loser but we have to accept that we have lost many battles life has sent our way … the interesting fact is every winner has lost many too , and thus eventually you and them are no different from this point onwards …

Now they say winning is a habit, I too think that it holds alot of truth , but so is losing … we unconciously in life have developed the habit of losing and that refelcts many a times in the state the we are in … state of stress , discomfort, impatience etc etc …

So what we need to do is develope the habit of winning … or be a winner …. again like I have the habit of rationalizing every action or disecting everything that happens around me to make everything simple enough to digest and understand and replicate ….

In short winners have some qualities / habits that distinguish them from others & reflect in the outcome of their every action … A few of these qualities let me share with you , and believe me these are all basically attitudes towards things , and can easily be adapted .. but since nobody told us how simple it would be so we assume them to be impossible …

1- Confidence.

2- Positivity.

3- Principles

4- Smart.

Winners have great deal of confidence in whatever they do .. Now this confidence is something they have gained from having suprior faith and smartness …. They have faith in their own abilities and help from Almighty. Their glorious past of accomplishments have given then the added booast that they can and will win the upcomming challanges too …

Positive attitude towards everything make them see the oppertunities and keeps them away from getting stress, which leads to negativity and disbelief. Winners also have principles which kinda thinking / people / activities / tasks are allowed and which are not … and finally they are smart in weighing all of their options , choosing tasks , challanges and then assigning respective deadlines. They know they have to win , so they’ll chooose the tasks which they feel that they would be able to accomplish. They are aware of their own limitations.

Now how to bring these traits into your own personality … now this is the part that nobody teaches … or make it sound like impossible ..

Step # 1 : Be aware of challanges / tasks / activities ….

We are performing different tasks, activities etc in day to day life , small one’s like lets say I decided to write an article each day … so this is a committment that I made … so if I don’t compelete it or take it casually then , I unintentionally am creating the acceptance for not compeleting the tasks .. or habit of not compeleting what you committed to your self… same goes for like if you decided that you’ll jogg for 3 KM etc then dont’ give up , cause giving up is again a habit , that is makign your mind weak … but if I write an article the day when I don’t feel like writing , then I am telling my mind that I am bigger then any challange or hazard that my mind will throw my way … its basically the devil inside that wants you to fail … he’s working extra time to make you itno a failure and make you feel misrable with yourself .. cause that way you’ll spread my misrry and negativity around and full fill his agenda …

Now you can have fun with this … but don’t over do it .. cause it can backfire … try taking up a few challanges every now and then … and make sure you compelete it .. set up small goals for yourself daily .. and then after completion you’ll get the added confidence that you can achieve things ….

Step # 2 : Things are possible …

Cause we have had the habit of letting go of things in middle so our mind is trained that way , of thinking that thingsa re just not possible , when they actually are .. So whenever life throws something at you .. or you choose something for yourself … Think of it as possible untill proven otherewise …. Positive thinking will result in positive outcomes … This is a general rule … if you are skeptical about anything and doing something halfheartedly then most probabally you won’t be able to do it .. so remove the doubts , if you are doing anything do it like there is no other option or “losing is just not an option.

Step # 3 : Decleration :

This is a technique I have used very successfully and works like a charm for me … like whenever you want to do anything big , declare it to those guys who’d discourage you or might think that you’ll fail … cause then they’ll discourage you make fun of you .. and since you’ve declared it to them … now you’ve your reputation online … so this will give you added push to succeed , cause frankly who wants to be made fun of … and when you’d achieve the confidence this will give you woudl be awesoem … and this would help you with future challanges …

Step # 4 : Be Smart :

Don’t take up tasks or claim things that are out of your reach .. if you are beginner at this .. then choose the small time tasks which are easily possible, don’t make complicated plans or daily sechdules which would be hard to follow … Winning and regularly winning is the key … so be smart , start slow and once you are on the road then you can pick up bigger challanges …

Now these tips I hope would help you with starting to act like winners …. cause as I explained its not that difficult …

To your success ….

- Tirmizi

30 Responses to “Winners or Losers !!!! Now you have a choice”

Naz Ghazali
October 14th, 2010

thanks great effort brother.

Zohaib Ali
October 14th, 2010

Thanks bro soooooo nice

Mudassar Zafar Bhatti
October 14th, 2010

Thanx for sharing very nice article

Shehryar Khan
October 14th, 2010

That’s inspiring, good work.

Amanat Ali Khan
October 14th, 2010

All these things are God gifted

Marium Akhter
October 14th, 2010

Thanx for sharing very nice article

Omer Kazi
October 14th, 2010

very nice article Tirmizi Bhai…..n yeah have shared it too =)

Zahid Khan
October 14th, 2010

thats owsem …keep it up bro …its hats ovvv. …and thanx veryyy much …

Waqar Naqvi
October 14th, 2010

GREAT EFFORT BRO WE R WITH U KEEP IT UP

Farrah Mazhar
October 14th, 2010

defination of SMART
I think this word has no meaning .
let us say when we start learning any new thing we are pure idiots but when we master it we become smart .
So it is practice and knowing the stuff inside out which makes you a smart perso…n .

Tirmizi
October 14th, 2010

‎@Farah // yes it doesn’t have any standard , but what I was reffering to was to apply the common sense an logic to all your choices / options or things that you take up !!! and don’t just go and start thing instantly without spending sometime thinking about the pros and cons of your decisions ….

Eeraj Ali
October 14th, 2010

very nice
very inspiring and ful of learning thanks Mr. Tirmizi for sharing this

Hussein Mahomedy
October 14th, 2010

‎:)Great – Inspiring .Thank you .

Farrah Mazhar
October 14th, 2010

‎@Tirmizi …I did not mean it in this way instead I meant do not be discouraged or daunted by the task at hand .

Tirmizi
October 14th, 2010

‎@Farah // I know .. rest assure , its your comment and a few others (who are not commeting ) that I wait for .. cause you guys would bring more discussion to the topic , or help in understanding this slightly more … rest assure I’ll keep bugging you guys untill my msg goes across …

Mohemmed Owais
October 14th, 2010

It is very useful article. The idea of gaining confidence by achieving small tasks is really good.I used to look at this from a different angle like I used to say anything what I achieved is not my destiny, it is just one step towards my t…arget. I did not think at all about the confidence which this small steps gives me.
Smartness is also crucial, I always tried to be smart in planning and executing but I have never explain this point to anyone as clearly as you done.

Tirmizi
October 14th, 2010

Thanks Owais // why I try to make it very simple , cause not all have the same intellegance level as we all do , plus the time we are living in .. requires alot of effort for the part of the teacher , cause even if its beneficial of general public , they are too busy watching the negative news or daily soaps … so you’ve to keep banging your head against them and I am ready for that …

Mazhar Shani
October 14th, 2010

This article is good and easy to apply on self.

Abdulwasi Rahimi
October 14th, 2010

Thanks for sharing ! Really nice article keep it up …

Sana Saima
October 14th, 2010

good…..n thnks for ur secrt tips infect u guide us so sweetly n straight way.exclent theory u have as winner…..weldone keep it up

Natalie Alvi
October 14th, 2010

Definition of smart: to me: the ability to make the right decisions.

Tirmizi
October 14th, 2010

‎@Natalie // right decisions to the best of your knoweldge , after pondering on all available options and not rushing into anything ..

I think not everybody would be able to make the “exact right” decision every single time , but here you’v…e to atleast make an effort to think about the outcome of your decision ..

Natalie Alvi
October 14th, 2010

Of course. There are ALSO those decisions that you can make and clearly see a domino effect about to happen; good or bad; positive, negative. A smart person can have a rough to concrete vibe about what constitutes a good or bad idea.

Sana Naz Shaikh
October 14th, 2010

great. but how to balance Confidence. Sometimes we become overconfident. we’ve seen the danger of overconfidence, how can we overcome it?

Mohemmed Owais
October 14th, 2010

‎@ Sana//: In order to balance confidence we should remind that Allah made us from mud AND This is only Allah who can bless us with respect. Other than Allah’s blessings we have nothing to be proud of.

Sana Naz Shaikh
October 14th, 2010

‎@ Mohemmed Owais : you’re right. but you know mostly in decision making we become overconfident. we treat overconfidence as innate.Sometime we got success and sometimes we got big loss.

Tirmizi
October 14th, 2010

‎@Sana // nobody can claim that he/she won’t make any bad decisions in life … or there is noway you can make all judgements right … however, what you have control upon , is how to deal with the mistakes afterwords … so don’t worry abo…ut making bad decisions .. but don’t make the same mistake twice ..

Rest sometimes the reason might be over confidence , sometime something else … so don’t worry abotu it , but learn from your mistake .. a very good quote comes to my mind in thinking about this …

“If you learn from your failure , you’ve never really failed”

Mohemmed Owais
October 14th, 2010

‎@ Sana// I think when somebody loss something because of overconfidence then this loss itself stop him/her to be overconfident next time.

Mohemmed Owais
October 14th, 2010

Mohemmed Owais ‎@ Sana// let me tell you one of my trick, whenever I realize that I am felling proud or I am becoming over confident then I start staring on Earth and start saying repeatedly “ALLAH JISE CHAHTA HE IZZAT DETA HE OR JISE CHAHTA HE ZILLAT DETA HE” by saying this again and again I start realizing that the achievement which is making me proud and overconfident can be taken back from me.